Today I want to talk about a question I get asked a lot. Which is, "What really drives behaviour when it comes to #boundaries and saying no?"
The short answer is this…
It’s the fear of #rejection. The fear that you’re not good enough and you just want other people to be accepting of you.
Which is the most common trait found in people.
But, yes. It does lead to a lot of trouble saying no and feeling like you’re being walked on by others.
If this is you, it sounds like you may be valuing connection over truth.
And that will cause you to say, yes, to too many things.
Most likely being taken advantage of by others as you try to manage a totally packed schedule. Leading to overwhelm and disempowerment.
Not a fun combo…
Here are a few methods to overcome that.
Work to hold yourself in a higher regard. A higher self image.
For some, this might be quite challenging. You've bought into other people's opinions of you.
But really, other people's opinions of you are none of your business.
Establish your values and boundaries. Take care of your priorities first and others will begin to respect you for it.
Yes, they really will.
You must keep in mind that other people are NOT STARRING IN YOUR MOVIE.
Do NOT be a film extra in your own movie.
And here’s the biggest thing to keep in mind…
Those that mind, don’t matter and those that matter don't mind.
So, if you need to get some rejection practice, go get a sales job! LOL.
They deal with rejection all day long!
Locate your truth and abide by that, my friend.
It’s always okay to account for the needs of those you love, but be sure you're authentic.
Be sure you truly want to say yes and are not saying yes out of some misplaced sense of obligation.
You’ll be amazed at the feedback you receive from that.
If you want to know more about this and how to achieve it then get in touch.
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